POINTS TO KNOW IN PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE

Topic:  POINTS TO KNOW IN PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE

Wikipedia: Marriage is a social union or legal contract between people called spouses that establishes rights and obligations between the spouses, between the spouses and their children and between the spouses and their in-laws.

Marriage is a union between a man and a woman and not a boy and a girl,you must be physically, emotionally , financially and spiritually prepared.

1. Marriage ceremony is a  public demonstration of a couples commitment to a covenant relationship, the ceremony is not as  important as the couples convenient commitment before God and men Malachi: 2:14. Don't take the whole of your life preparing for wedding ceremony and forget the great journey that lies ahead. You don't need to call all the crowd to get married.

2. Cohabitation with the opposite sex does not indicate that you are married. ( story of the Samaritan woman at the well) john 4:17-18. Both Biblicaly and legally, especially for the ladies, you are a loser when you are cohabiting, you have problem with your self esteem.

3. Legalizing your marriage is biblical and very important. Rom13:1-2. One of the reasons why African men is finding it difficult to sit up is bc the women don't  know their right, in the developed world, you will think of how much of your investment you will loose before hurting a woman or taking another.

4. Don't go into thinking that you can always get divorced. There's no room for divorce in the kingdom because God hates divorce. Life is full of challenges and people will always change but marriage is commitment.

5. Do not marry someone who is abusive, if you suspect infidelity or if you cannot agree on big issues like religion, finances or child rearing in the beginning, don't insist.

6. There is no proper cleaving without proper leaving, watch out before you marry someone who is obsessively tied to his/ her parents

7. Don't expect to know what to expect:  Marriage requires constant working on it.  We live in an instant world, fast food, ATM, Internet but you need patience to go into marriage.

  i. Finical crises, you need to be strong and dont compare yourself

 ii. Sexual crises: hang in there you are not alone

III. Domestic disagreement

8. Know your partner well: speak up if you have skeleton in your cupboard, no one is perfect, it will also make u feel better.

9. You must be ready for commitment:  you must move from being in love to growing in love. Loving someone is more than mere feelings. It's a decision! If you are still swept in the emotional side of love you may not have time to step back and work out if this person is really right for you

10. Do not marry someone you are not physically attracted to. 

11.  Do not get married for the wrong reasons: money, sex, connection etc 

12. Sex is worth waiting for: trying to get a man committed through sex will destroy the relationship. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond.

13. Work on your look as a lady, men are moved by what they see 

14.  Have a relationship with God: get connected to  God and He will connect you to men. Involve yourself in church activities, you might get noticed from there, be friendly and active in church.

- TOLU