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MY 10 KOBO, STOP WASTING YOUR TIME WITH MARRIED MEN

Because he's immature and lack the fear of God, he felt he needs someone to warm his bed when his wife is pregnant or just put to bed, sometimes it could be because he's facing some kind of pressure in the house.

You open your arms and legs wide enough to welcome him, funny enough you even open your heart to a man who has already been taken, then you come around and tell the tale of a broken heart, are you kidding me? What do you expect?

If a married man is genuinely reciprocating your love, make your research, he must be having crisis in his home, and you become history the day the crisis is over. If he's not having any issue,then he's using you to wile away time, to unwind, he will waste your time while using you to service his own. And because there will be no proper cleaving without proper leaving, he will engage your life and turn you away from all the potential suitors.

Babe, I'm not here to judge you, but to remind you of the reality of life. Wake up girl! Don't be blinded with gift and money and loose your husband, this is another major reason why most ladies are still single against their wish.

Let him go now before he causes more damage to your destiny, in fact, it's more dangerous when he has a faithful and praying wife. Abo oro Lanso fomo luabi o, meaning, a word is enough for the wise. My 10 kobo!

MY GOOD FRIDAY MESSAGE

Yesterday, I stumbled on the seven bowl of affliction online and decided to read more about it, I read about rapture, about Armageddon and the millennium reign.

This brought back the memory of when I was growing up, I gave my life at a very tender age, I was involved in rural evangelism and crusades. I remember those days when we will visit towns and villages to show the movies; Olugbala gbami, the beginning of the end..... You remember those movies?

You will see people in tears, broken and desperately willing to make amends. All that has changed now, probably because we have better understanding of the dispensation of grace, maybe because people are carried away with the teachings about prosperity or we have just concluded that rapture is never gonna happen.

Hhhmmmm..... Whatever the case maybe, I think today should be a day of sober reflection for all of us, the day Christ paid the uttermost price for me and you, the day He laid down His life so we could have ours in abundance, the day He said its finished!

Brothers and sisters, won't you reconsider your way and forget all these "it doesn't matter" religion we are practicing today, won't you make amends and reconsider your salvation, or, what will it profit a man that gained the whole world and looses his soul?

You might not trust pastors anymore( that's the excuse of many), you might even be disappointed in some believers, but that, still, won't change the standard of God.

Wether you believe it or not, rapture is real and Jesus Christ is coming back, and if you don't believe that, sure you know there's life after death. Make up your mind to be different today, so the death of Jesus will not be in vain. No one is perfect but we can all work towards perfection. This is my Good Friday message, my fans, my passion. Happy Easter!

You might wish to say this prayer with me: Lord Jesus, I know you came to this world to die for me, I know I've not been the best you expected, but I ask that you forgive me all my sins today, I confess you as my Lord and saviour, come into my life and leave no more, give me grace to live to your expectations. Amen!

MY GOOD FRIDAY MESSAGE

Yesterday, I stumbled on the seven bowl of affliction online and decided to read more about it, I read about rapture, about Armageddon and the millennium reign.

This brought back the memory of when I was growing up, I gave my life at a very tender age, I was involved in rural evangelism and crusades. I remember those days when we will visit towns and villages to show the movies; Olugbala gbami, the beginning of the end..... You remember those movies?

You will see people in tears, broken and desperately willing to make amends. All that has changed now, probably because we have better understanding of the dispensation of grace, maybe because people are carried away with the teachings about prosperity or we have just concluded that rapture is never gonna happen.

Hhhmmmm..... Whatever the case maybe, I think today should be a day of sober reflection for all of us, the day Christ paid the uttermost price for me and you, the day He laid down His life so we could have ours in abundance, the day He said its finished!

Brothers and sisters, won't you reconsider your way and forget all these "it doesn't matter" religion we are practicing today, won't you make amends and reconsider your salvation, or, what will it profit a man that gained the whole world and looses his soul?

You might not trust pastors anymore( that's the excuse of many), you might even be disappointed in some believers, but that,  still, won't change the standard of God.

Wether you believe it or not, rapture is real and Jesus Christ is coming back, and if you don't believe that, sure you know there's life after death. Make up your mind to be different today, so the death of Jesus will not be in vain. No one is perfect but we can all work towards perfection. This is my Good Friday message, my fans, my passion. Happy Easter!

You might wish to say this prayer with me: Lord Jesus, I know you came to this world to die for me, I know I've not been the best you expected, but I ask that you forgive me all my sins today, I confess you as my Lord and saviour, come into my life and leave no more, give me grace to live to your expectations. Amen!

MY 10 KOBO

Even though physical attraction matters, making it the foundation of your relationship/marriage will land you into trouble.

Marriage is a big deal, it takes a lot of maturity, compromise and sacrifice to keep a home.

My experience as a matchmaker made it clear to me that the rate of divorce in our society is increasing these days because people are  marrying wrongly.

If the major reason you are marrying that lady is because of her boobs, straight leg, fine face or back side, and you close your eyes to all her enormous flaws just because you cant resist the breast, Don't blame anyone for your problems When you are faced with the reality called marriage.

If all that makes you commit your life into a marriage is because the man is tall, handsome or rich, don't blame the devil when he shows up in your home as your father in law.

Is Tolu saying those qualities are bad? NO! What I'm saying is that it takes more than those, to keep a home. Godliness is a virtue, commitment is a plus, compatibility is a must and attitude is a determinant.

Don't be fooled into a long life commitment because of physical attraction alone, marry what drives a man not what he drives, no one is perfect but we can all work towards perfection. My 10kobo!

May God guide your steps this week in Jesus name!

-Tolu

MAINTAINING A STABLE HOME IN A MOVING WORLD

Everything around us is changing and it look as if the family is the devil target, women are not submissive anymore and men  have  lost the ability to love, meanwhile if we can follow the basic principles in the bible, everything will work out well, everything I'm gonna talk about centered on those two principles, love and submission. Eph 5: 22-26, 33, colosian 3:19, 1 Peter 3:7.

God ordained family in the garden of eden, therefore satan has always hated this institution, satan attack on the first marriage caused the fall of man and loss of rulership of the world, currently your home is your Eden and if you give rom to the devil, he will drive you out of your Eden. devil is targeting the family because if you miss it or if you are having issues in your relationship and marriage, every other aspect of your life will be affected. One will begin to wonder where we have lost it. Gen chapter 3. 

Sometimes we say it was better the day of our fore father, but obviously many of them didn't know Christ, that means things should be better now that we know CHrist. When it look as if everything is going upside down in marriage, what do we do?Q

BECOMING THE BEST FOR THE REST

Who is the best: To be the Best means surpassing all others in excellence , achievement, or quality, it means  most excellent, of the highest quality.

Proverb 31: 10-31

Becoming the best for your children: 

      1. Train your children in the way of the Lord

      2. Take good care of your female child

       3. Make your children trust you enough to tell u anything

       4. Be a role model, be the best for your children, don't fight, argue, keep       malice

       

Becoming the best for yourself and your husband  husband: 

Another very interesting meaning of the best is, most satisfactory,  most suitable, most desirablle, someone who tops all othersas you strive to be the best for your partner, you are equally improving yourself:

1. Improve yourself mentally and socially

2. Improve yourself physically

3. Be proud of yourself, don't look down on yourself, 

4. Communicate calmly clearly and directly, express your feelings, don't expect your husband to be a mind reader( a man who can read the silence of a woman

5. Prepare yourself before his arrival every evening

6. Don't greet him with complains and problems

7. Accept him for who he is, respect him, let him be the man

8. Learn to forgive

9. Hygiene Esther 2:9-12. You have to be attracted to a woman b4 u start thinking of love,some hv lost dat attraction.

9. Learn how to kiss. Songs of Solomon 1:2,  4:11. Some kissed last during honeymoon,smooth lips, tilt head yo one side, suck d lips, not too much saliva, touch d body, look in dface, then close ur eyes wen head is tilt,roll d tongues ,

10. Have an active sex life: SOS 4:16 

Sex bond couple together both physically and spiritually ( A) physically: the power of oxytocin , a hormone released during lovemaking, when both partner reached orgasm( talk about orgasm) . ( B) Spiritually: 1 Corinthians 6: 15-20

A sexually unsatisfied man will be angry, has feelings of rejection

Have an interesting sex life: learn how yo touch a woman's breast prov5:18, take charge too, to the men find out if you are satisfying her sexually, she could be dying in silence,married women masturbating and the men cheating.(shame)

Lost of partner could be devastating nd has psychological effect, occupy ur mind with Godly things if you can cope, if someone loves u , ur happiness becomes their priority, so if u decide to move on, he /she will understand meanwhile it's appointed unto man to die once

11. Make God the center of your marriage

To the men: you might not be her perfect guy but you can be the best thing she ever knew

POINTS TO KNOW IN PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE

Topic:  POINTS TO KNOW IN PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE

Wikipedia: Marriage is a social union or legal contract between people called spouses that establishes rights and obligations between the spouses, between the spouses and their children and between the spouses and their in-laws.

Marriage is a union between a man and a woman and not a boy and a girl,you must be physically, emotionally , financially and spiritually prepared.

GET PROFFESSIONAL ADVICE

Whatever the issue might be regarding your relationship, sex and marriage. Visit this blog and send your issue to get professional advice directly from Tolu.

I NEED HELP

I NEED HELP

I'm 25 years. I have a female friend who is 4 years older than I am. She has Masters' Degree while I'm just a HND holder.
We met on facebook and we became friends because we answer the same surname.
I'm from Nigeria while she is from Rep. Of Benin.
We are so close that people think we are dating. She's always around me. We go to work together, we return together because she stays close to where I live.
I love her so much that I'm willing to do anything to have her but the problem there is that she's not ready to accept my proposal. We've been on this since April 2011.
She's always with me and goes home very late in the night. The earliest time she leaves is 10:15pm. She stays as late as 11pm at times yet she keeps turning me down telling she can't date me.
She told me she's older than I am and is not ready to date someone younger than she is. Also, her immediate younger sister is 2 years older than I am.
She does not have a boyfriend neither do I have a serious relationship.
My profile picture on facebook is a picture we took together while her profile picture on facebook is another picture we took together.
To me, she doesn't give room for guys to ask her out. If she's not @ home, she's with me.
The Wednesday preceding new year (28th December, 2011), I was with her in my room and she raised the issue of me being single. I told her I'm not interested in anyone. Later, I told her I still want her. She told me NO that it's not possible. I felt so sad and down that I could not hold it to myself.
While being emotional, we found ourselves kissing for the first time. She left later without us going beyond the kissing.
The next day while returning from work, she checked on me and while she was about leaving, we kissed again! This time it lasted more than 20mins! I was shocked! On getting outside, she told me she has no feelings for me and she was doing those things for me to feel comfortable.
I am in love and I'm willing to do anything to keep her to myself.
I told her I intend getting married in 2013 and she told me she intends getting married the same year 2013!
Up till now, we talk for for like an hour in a day, chat on bbm all day.
The closeness is more than ever.
Kindly help me with your advice

APRIL FOOL....

Still on April fool matters. You can't just fool some people on APRIL FOOLS' DAY....

Last year April 1st.. A woman wanted to play a prank on
her husband to know how her hubby would react if she left
without telling him where she had gone. So she decided to
write him a letter saying she is tired of him and didn't want
to live with him any more and after writing she put the
letter on the table in the bedroom before hiding under the
bed.......
When her hubby came back home, he saw the letter and
read it, then he also wrote something on it then began to
sing and dance, changing his clothes. He got his phone,
dialed someone then said: "Hey babe, am just changing
clothes then will join you, as for my old madam, it has
finally dawned on her that I was fooling around with her all
dis while and has left. I was really wrong to have married
her, I wish I had known you earlier. See you soon honey!".
The hubby then walked out of the room.

In tears and very upset, the woman got up from under the
bed and decided to go and read what the hubby wrote on
the letter. It reads: "Madam April fool....I COULD see your
feet under d bed, I am going to buy bread. Stand up & fry
egg 4 me, abeg stop dis your silly games and go prepare
me a meal joor"!!

Happy New Month to u all once again

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work
If you are willing to work it out, here's how to give it every chance to survive and thrive.

 Steps

1. Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, engaged) as well as defining exclusive (limited to one person,) or non-exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Example: "Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?" or "What are you looking to get out of the relationship?" Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need.
   
2. Consider using Skype video chat calls every day, text messaging, phone calls and email every day. It is important to maintain contact and to be in each other's daily lives as much as possible.
   
3. Do things together. Defy the distance. As a long distance couple, it's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Incorporating other forms of interaction are important. Just think... People in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously.
4.  Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Ensure the e-mails are substantive and detailed, it will show that you care enough to put in the time and effort. Write love letters. Send small gifts, cards, or men send flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand—you don't take communication for granted! You can set up reminders, including automatically-recurring reminders, for this purpose in calendaring software on your computer or online. This is especially important when you don't have much contact with the other's friends to remember important events such as birthdays.
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6. Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, not being dragged into a bunch of chick flicks, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality—something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together. Here are additional benefits of long distance relationships.