The place of sex in a Christian marriage

What is sex?

The word sexual intercourse was generated from the Latin word coition, meaning a joining together or coming together. Sex is more than just a physical exercise, it’s like an araldite that join two irons together and made it impossible to be detached. Sex is also spiritual, because it doesn’t only join the body together but also the soul Gen. 2:24;1 Cor. 6:15-16.

ON A LIGHTER MOOD....CHANGE OF NAME

On a lighter mood:

A newly married husband saved his wife's number on his mobile as "My life"

After one year of marriage, he changed the number to
"My Wife"

After 2 years of marriage, he changed the number to
"Home"

After 5 years of marriage, he changed the number to
"Hitler"

After 10 years of marriage, he changed the number to
"Wrong Number"

what name do you think he will save the wife's number with
after 15 years.......... .???

MAN KILL LOVER AND MADE AWAY WITH HER SUV AND OTHER VALUABLES

It is important we watch out for the kind of company we keep.

Two are better than one, but the personality of the entities that made up the two must be considered. I often tell couples who are contemplating divorce to try diverting the energy they are using for fighting and divorce issues to making their marriage works.

 I'm not an advocate of do or die marriage but i believe some marriages could still be worked on and divorce is not always a solution. I also don't intend to Judge anyone, because one needs to work in other people's shoes before crucifying them, but im not in support of  this idea of elderly man dating young ladies who are old enough to be their grand children and vice versa. 

Two can never work together unless they agree, this issue of Cougar, Aristo or whatever, is not always the best, the story hardly ends well. This is another sad story, may God bless the soul of the deceased. On Monday 21st July 2014, The Nigeria Police Area ‘E Command Festac responded to an emergency call at Amuwo Odofin involving the murder of Mrs. Njideka Lizzy – a divorcee and mother of 4. Once on scene, officers say they found the strangulated body of the victim lying lifelessly in her apartment. The remain of Mrs. Njideka Lizzy was immediately deposited at the nearest morgue while the Nigeria police Festac embarked on an intensive investigation and manhunt for her killer.

WOMAN HAS HUSBAND'S BABY, 2 YEARS AFTER HIS DEATH

Woman has husband's baby 2 years after his death.

Science or Miracle? 

I can't help but share this amazing story....

British mum Karen Steer can’t believe how lucky she is after she gave birth to a little miracle against odds of 100 to one.

The 41 year old conceived a child using the sperm of her late husband who passed away from lung cancer in 2011.

Do you agree with me?

Classy girls don't wear tattoo because no one will intentionally scratch a Bentley or private jet, if you have one, you might probably be a danfo... good day and have a classy week ahead.

MY 10KOBO

Most time we concentrate on trying to understand others rather than understanding ourselves.

People develop their character and temperamental while growing up, the personality we grew up to become has a lot to do with our upbringing, culture, religion, environment etc.

It takes special grace and firm determination for one to change the character he/she has become after 25 or 30 years, and this change can only be achieved by the personality involved with support and encouragement from someone he/she loved, it can never be achieved by force or fighting.

If you understand this, you will concentrate more on learning to live with the personality God has packaged for you and not try to change them, you will be happier that way. And with your love, compassion, understanding and prayer, they will be personally compelled and convinced to make ammends.

Im not talking about encouraging bad habits but understanding and respecting the fact that we are all different and unique in our own ways. "Mowa foniwa lonje orejore". If we all act and think the same way, its gonna be a boring world. May God give us understanding in these things.
My 10Kobo!

BEAUTIFUL ADVICE FROM A DIVORCED MAN AFTER 16 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

Beautiful advice from a divorced man after 16 years of marriage. My advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage, by Gerald Rogers. Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had 1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. 2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there. 3. Fall in love over and over again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

INTIMACY NETWORK : HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY

INTIMACY NETWORK : HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY: A writer said and i quote: "women are like puzzles, they cry when they are happy, go silent when they are mad at you, and say things...

INTIMACY NETWORK : HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY

INTIMACY NETWORK : HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY: A writer said and i quote: "women are like puzzles, they cry when they are happy, go silent when they are mad at you, and say things...

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY

A writer said and i quote: "women are like puzzles, they cry when they are happy, go silent when they are mad at you, and say things are ok when they are clearly not, its a waste of time for men to try to figure them out, but then again, few things are more unpleasant than having an unhappy woman on your hand"

Women are very simple at the same time very complex, most time men try to worry their head about how to make a woman happy. Women are mostly moved by what they hear while men are moved by what they see.

A happy woman will bring about a happy home and therefore a happy children.

A man went to God and wanted to ask him what he thought it's d most impossible request on earth, G od you know I have been very faithful to you, if I ask you the most difficult thing on earth will you do, Godvsaid yes, my faithful son, hevsaid ok I want to build my house in d sky, for the whole worked to see, come to d world without having to climb ladder or fly, control the moon and the sun, god said granted, he said ok I want to ask a simple request, how do I understand a woman, God said, my son I'm still learning to do that too.

1. Be yourself : dont try to be someone youre not it will end up backfiring. Deceit and lie is a great sin in the sight of God, if you have your way with woman through this means, she might never forgive you for the rest of her life.

2. Reassure her :  men often think providing for the family and taking care of the home is enough prof to show that they cares but they are very wrong, don't measure the extent of your love by the number of work, I'm not talking about emotional work here, she needs to see you look into her eyes and tell her how much you love her.

3. Be a good listener: do not listen to woman problem but her feelings, most time when your women want to talk to you, it's not as if she hasn't been thinking of how to find solution to her problem, she just wanted u to listen and share in her fears and worries, often time men want to listen and the next thing is how to fix it, it's not always about fixing but about feelings.

4. Remember women can feel differently about sex: men Ned to understand that it takes a longer period of time for women to get aroused compared to men, mare thinking of an opposite sex can arouse a man, so when she just want you to cuddle her or put her head on your chest don't always conclude the next thing is sex or else she will start avoiding you. You need to take it easy with her when it domes to sex,take your time,once she gets into it she will enjoy it as much or even maybe more than you do but patience is an effective tool here.

5. Admire her beauty and try and be truthful about it: women want to be looked at while men want to do the looking, when she ask you if she's looking beautiful try and readies her, if there are things you admire from women outside, you can inculcate it her by telling her with love. She really want to be sure that she's looking beautiful for you.

6. Provide her with emotional security: apart from money and gifts, every woman want to have a dependable man, a man that she knows she can call upon when she's in crisis, a man she knows she can always count on. ( example of a man who tole her call me when you fix ur car). Even when she's not saying what the problem is, try and listing to her silence and feelings.

7. Do not rebuke her openly: IT kills her spirit and makes her doubt your love, support her or at least be neutral in public, maybe among neighbors and colleagues, but rebuke her truthfully when you are alone, she will appreciate it, ( example of a woman whose husband employee will pass her without greeting her,and dat of a woman who said d husband is supporting her neighbors.

8. Pamper her: women love to be pet just like men, buy her gifts , it doesn't have to be too expensive, stroll to the suya jointing the evening, buy her gifts eg earrings etc or give her a surprise treat on her birthday or anniversary (intimate errands)

9. Be proud of her: whatever you call your wife is what your friend sand neighbors will call her, if dr are things u admire outside, tell her you like so and so. Go out with her to functions, enjoy her company and she will be on top of the world.

10. Put her in her place when she's been irrational 

3 WAYS TO STOP FIGHTING ABOUT SEX

Introduction: You need to understand the importance of sex in marriage and why your husband keep asking for it more than you do, he's just been a man.

Most men Ned to learn how to make their wife keep looking forward to sex.

 Each time a man or woman reaches fulfillment,oxytocin is released to the brain and body in quantities that promote bonding between the two people, the more a married couple have sexual fulfillment (each of them fulfilled) the more they bond with each other,they become more close and attached.

  Testerone, one of the hormone responsible for sex drive is 20-40 percent higher in men than women, though not always the case bt is common and normal for men to desire sex more than women.

Men tend to determine intimacy as a form of action like sexual union or physical activities for the women why women tend to see intimacy as sharing emotional bond, warm, closeness and vulnerabilities so when a man is not getting enough of what he termed intimacy he begins to think the woman is straying.

1. COMMUNICATE :  Fighting is different from communicating, you need to talk about it calmly and rationally, consider the make ego when you are trying to talk about this. Wether one of you is not getting what you want, or you have different sex drive or whatever the reason is open discussion and honesty is the solution to avoid fight. No mater how difficult it is u have to talk about it.

2.COMPROMISE: It's difficult for the 2 of u to be at the same page all the time,maybe one prefer sex in d day time, for example like the truck driver who called d other day, or one like it done with the light on, or one hate to be touched while sleeping, or differences in styles or frequencies, men can compromise by helping the wife wif some household chores wen u know u r planning to have sex later in d nite nd women can compromise by doing it once in a while wen not in d mood.

3. FIX  WHAT IS NOT WORKING:  you don't like d way he jump into action before foreplay, you don't enjoy it atall, there's smt she's not doing, u dnt like d smell ( talk bat a client who complain bat d husband ,she always want him to bath b4 sex) instead of getting into argument over same issue every time u wanna make love, try and fix d problem.

CONSEQUENCES OF MASTURBATION

HOW TO KNOW IF A MAN IS IN LOVE WITH YOU

EFFECTS OF THE INTERNET ON RELATIONSHIP & MARRIAGE

SEXUAL TURN OFF FOR MEN

3 WAYS TO STOP FIGHTING ABOUT SEX

MAN COMMITTS SUICIDE OVER LOVE STORY THAT WENT SOUR

Only a foundation that stands on Christ solid rock remains forever. The devil comes not but to steal , kill and destroy. Tragedy struck at the Onikolobo area of Abeokuta, Ogun State on Saturday when a 33-year-old man, Oluwatosin Otaiku, stabbed himself to death after his fiancee, Olaogun Oluwatoyin, discontinued the relationship.

Otaiku killed himself after his woman told him she was no longer interested in the relationship. After the girlfriend made a U-turn, the deceased was said to have become worried, and this made neighbours, who were aware of the development, to intervene. Efforts were made to reconcile them.On one of such occasions, an eyewitness said the duo was invited to discuss in privacy inside a shop at Safari junction in Onikolobo. Otaiku was said to have hid a knife in his pocket, prepared to end it all if there was no truce...

BUILDING A GODLY HOME

Merriam-Webster dictionary defines building as an act or process of making structures by putting together materials. We can therefore say building a Godly home is an act or process of making homes by putting together materials.

Acts are the steps and actions you take toward achieving a goal: to every action there's a reaction, and what you sow is what you reap, this rule is also applicable to marriage, the actions and steps you take to get married will determine your destination, that is your goal.

Materials are the contents or substance of which something is composed. This indicates that there are some qualities your home is expected to have as a Christian, we should be the model that people of the world are looking up to. 1st Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ. (1 Corinthians 11:1 KJV)

Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and doeth them, I will shew you to whom he is like: He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock. But he that heareth, and doeth not, is like a man that without a foundation built an house upon the earth; against which the stream did beat vehemently, and immediately it fell; and the ruin of that house was great. (Luke 6:47-49 KJV)

Let me now say that acts are the action you take to achieve a Godly home and a beautiful marriage, this will be very useful to the single and could also be applicable to those who got married for wrong reasons, there's room for amendments and repentance  in the kingdom.  There are so many points to be mentioned here but I will give just 5 very important ones.