HOW TO KNOW IF A MAN IS REALLY INTO YOU

 HOW TO KNOW IF A MAN IS REALLY INTO YOU

Ladies ask this question all the time but the fact is, if a man really loves you, you don’t need to ask or get confused about it, especially if he’s a matured man, if he’s into you, you will know. Men are pretty simple when it comes to emotion, if he’s into you, he can hardly hide it, women are better in pretending.

And if you get confused about this and has to ask over and over again, most common answer you will get is that he’s probably not into you.

Some also say there’s no way to know if a man really loves you but I’m going to give us some pointer.

HOW TO STOP CHEATING

                                

 HOW TO STOP CHEATING

Cheating used to be a man thing until now, more and more women are engaging in this disgusting act and so many are not experiencing the usual remorse and guilt that follow such act. Probably you feel you are justified or you have a very strong excuse, the truth is there’s no reason good enough to justify cheating, the consequences can be grievous if caught in the act. Are you trying to come out of cheating before it destroys you, read on….

You may be married or in a love relationship and everything is working just fine. One fine day you meet an old crush, friend or a lover and are overwhelmed with nostalgia. You begin by sending text messages, making phone calls and exchanging emails in the name of friendship and enjoy it too.

It brings a fresh feeling to your life that is run out of romance. Before you realize you fall into another relationship that can turn your world topsy turvy. To avoid such heart breaking situations and stop cheating your partner, read on and collect yourself.

HOW TO SPICE UP A BORING MARRIAGE

HOW TO SPICE UP A BORING MARRIAGE
 My marriage is 12 years old, I love my husband and 3 kids so much, but I recently got bored of the marriage and fell in love with another man, a widower. Even though I tried not to hurt my family and stay with them, I can’t help loving this new man, I feel lost and sad in my home that I sometimes feel like killing myself while I’m always happy and full of life when I’m with this other man. Tolu, please what do I do, I’m loosing my mind, should I go with this man for the sake of my happiness or stay back and remain unhappy?
 Many marriages have lost the wine. It’s as if the spark is no longer there, those things that get you attracted when you said I do seems not to be clear anymore. The butterfly in your stomach seems not to be leaping anymore and it’s as if marriage is more of stress than peaceful. The truth is, all those excitements will mellow down after some time. Of course, you still love your spouse but things aren't as exciting as when you first met and in fact, things can become pretty boring. With the routines and chores of daily life, there is little room for excitement and romance, but this article discusses 10 important tips for spicing up a boring marriage.

WETIN DEY HAPPEN

I was discussing with a friend over the weekend and he told me about a particular lady in a barbecue joint that he normally visit with his fiends, she's one of the servers.

He said he has gone with about 7 of his friends and he can categorically say that out of those 7, four of them has slept with this lady.

He said sometimes when he visits alone, he always take note of how other men relate with the Lady and this made him wondered the number of men that would have slept with her.

This got me thinking, and I remembered my 10kobo sometimes last week about sex. A lot of people in-boxed me that sex is no longer as sacred as I think, some say its everywhere, some say, these days, people can do it with anyone at anytime.

I can't help but pondered on this issue, how can a young lady who is expecting someone to pay her bride price(especially these days, with outrageous list including iPad and iPhone) be counting 20, 50, 100 even someone said up to 200 sexual partner before getting married?

For what? Don't give me the poverty excuse please. What's going on? Where is our virtues as African women, whatever happened to our body being the temple of Christ? What about our pride, dignity....

I'm not trying to judge anyone here, its just that I cant conclude my 10kobo this morning, I need Somebody to bail me out please, wetin dey happen?

WHO ARE YOU?

Who are you? 

Ugly fat lady, the unattractive lady with small boobs and flat ass, the old lady that has been jilted severally and no one wanna marry, the dull guy who always come last in the class, the short ugly man whom no lady wanna marry, the poor guy who can never be successful in life?

Or, are you what people called you, what the society has made you to be, what religion has fashioned you to be or whom God says you are?

Funny enough, you can't grow beyond the picture of yourself, on your head, you only grow to the level at which your mind can conceive.

Don't forget people are very uncomfortable when others are making progress around them in this part of the world. So, Irrespective of whenever, whoever said whatever, you are whom you really think you are on the inside.
My 10kobo!

Tolu is a Relationship, Sex & Marriage Counselor, Speaker and Matchmaker.

what is your vision?

What are the reasons why you are in that business you are doing, why are you resuming early in the morning and closing at night at your place of work?

Why do you want to be leaders, why are you struggling for power, I’m asking, why are you with that man/woman?  Still don’t get it? The question is: are your vision and mission defined?

 If the only reason you are starting that business is because the other party is doing well, you could be in for the shock of your life. If the only reason you are struggling for power is to rubbish another party, you might have to think again. If you are with that guy/babe because you want to make someone jealous or make the life of another miserable, be ready to face karma.

The only reason some people talk bad about someone is to make other people feel bad about them, you know bad people are always in search of more company.

Why not start your own race instead of trying to destroy someone’s, why planning to take over another’s lane by rubbishing their image, your mission and vision determine your destination, define them.

 My 10 kobo today, strategize on ideology and not how to destroy others. Have a beautiful week full of Gods wisdom.

-Tolu 

HOW TO MAKE MARRIAGE WORK, WHEN THE WOMAN IS THE BREAD WINNER......

Understanding a woman might be a very tedious task to achieve, because sometimes the woman does not even understand herself. A woman is a special being, fragile but full of strength, so compassionate but could be ruthless, very simple but also complex, you can't just understand her. You find it difficult to live with her and you can't also live without her. Trying to understand a woman is like a camel trying to pass the hole of a niddle, concentrate on what get you attracted to her and tolerate her flaws with love. When a woman is in love, she will go the extra mile, give her your heart and she will give you her world. Appreciate the woman in your life to see her beauty and not her wrath!

Even when the woman is the bread winner, she can still maintain her position as a loving and warm woman that she is only if certain principles are followed. How then does one make marriage work, when the woman is the bread winner?