what is your vision?

What are the reasons why you are in that business you are doing, why are you resuming early in the morning and closing at night at your place of work?

Why do you want to be leaders, why are you struggling for power, I’m asking, why are you with that man/woman?  Still don’t get it? The question is: are your vision and mission defined?

 If the only reason you are starting that business is because the other party is doing well, you could be in for the shock of your life. If the only reason you are struggling for power is to rubbish another party, you might have to think again. If you are with that guy/babe because you want to make someone jealous or make the life of another miserable, be ready to face karma.

The only reason some people talk bad about someone is to make other people feel bad about them, you know bad people are always in search of more company.

Why not start your own race instead of trying to destroy someone’s, why planning to take over another’s lane by rubbishing their image, your mission and vision determine your destination, define them.

 My 10 kobo today, strategize on ideology and not how to destroy others. Have a beautiful week full of Gods wisdom.

-Tolu 

HOW TO MAKE MARRIAGE WORK, WHEN THE WOMAN IS THE BREAD WINNER......

Understanding a woman might be a very tedious task to achieve, because sometimes the woman does not even understand herself. A woman is a special being, fragile but full of strength, so compassionate but could be ruthless, very simple but also complex, you can't just understand her. You find it difficult to live with her and you can't also live without her. Trying to understand a woman is like a camel trying to pass the hole of a niddle, concentrate on what get you attracted to her and tolerate her flaws with love. When a woman is in love, she will go the extra mile, give her your heart and she will give you her world. Appreciate the woman in your life to see her beauty and not her wrath!

Even when the woman is the bread winner, she can still maintain her position as a loving and warm woman that she is only if certain principles are followed. How then does one make marriage work, when the woman is the bread winner?

DONT JUST DO THE RIGHT THING, BUT AT THE RIGHT TIME TOO

It was their anniversary, and Aisha was waiting for her husband Rajiv to show up.Things had changed since their marriage, the once cute couple couldn't-live-without-each-other had turned bitter.Fighting over every little things, both didn't like the way things had changed.Aisha was waiting to see if Rajiv remembered it was their anniversary!Just as the door bell rang she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand.The two started re-living the old days. Making up for fights, then was d plan for champagne, light music And it was raining! It was perfect.But the moment paused when the phone in the bedroom rang.Aisha went to pick it up and it was a man. "Hello ma'am I'm calling from the police station. Is this Mr Rajiv Mehra's number?""Yes it is!""I'm sorry ma'am; but there was an accident and a man died.We got this number from his wallet; we need you to come and identify his body."Aisha's heart sank.!!! She was shocked!But my husband is here with me?""Sorry ma'am, but the incident took place at 2 pm, when he was boarding the train."Aisha was about to lose her conscience.How could this happen?!She had heard about the soul of the person coming to meet a loved one before it leaves!She ran into the other room.He was not there. It was true! had left her for good!!Oh God she would have died for another chance to mend every little fight! She rolled on the floor in pain. She lost her chance! Forever!Suddenly there was a noise from the bathroom, the door opened and Rajiv came out and said "Darling, I forgot to tell you my wallet got stolen today".LIFE MIGHT NOT GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE. SO NEVER WASTE A MOMENT WHEN YOU CAN STILL MAKE UP FOR YOUR WRONGS!!!Let's start making amends.To parentsTo siblingsTo friendsAnd many more.No one has a promised tomorrow.Have a wonderful Life with no regrets!

WRONG REASONS TO GET MARRIED

WRONG REASONS TO GET MARRIED

1)Loneliness: Learn to fill happiness and fulfillment on your own. Happiness comes from within. There are many married yet lonely people. Let the joy of the Lord be your strength. Get married because it is the right thing to do not just to escape from loneliness.

2)Infatuation/Love:You need to be in love but don't just get married bcos of love. Love matters but it is not ALL that matters. You need to make sure that other ingredients that are essential for a good marriage like intimacy, good communication, friendship,support,compatibility are there in the relationship.

3)Unwanted pregnancy :Abstinence during courtship still remains a virtue and not outdated. If you marry bcos of an unwanted pregnancy it can lead to frustration and abuse. That's why sex is worth waiting for. If the guy says he wants to test your fertility first,then insists that he takes you to a gyno not to bed. Be smart not desperate!!!

4)Foolish Expectations -"he will quit smoking once we marry",she will get born-again later,He will turn to my religion/denomination...Sorry dear,if you marry an unbeliever, you've made the devil your father-inlaw.whatever you see,it's bcos you're now a son/daughter inlaw to the devil. *cant watch*

5)To prove a point/get over a heartbreak :You have to allow healing to take place after a broken relationship and learn from your contribution to its' failure. Don't marry just to show people that 'Yes,you can'.Get over your past,leave father and mother and cleave to your spouse. Without proper leaving,there won't be proper cleaving .

NB:A HAPPY MARRIAGE BEGINS WHEN WE MARRY THE ONE WE LOVE AND IT BLOSSOMS, WHEN WE LOVE THE ONE WE MARRY.
#GODHELPUS!! #GRACE #Culled FromIntimacyWithTolu

TESTIMONY

I'm not perfect but working towards perfection and the grace of He that has called me is sufficient to keep me going against all odds.

If you don't believe that Intimate Talk With Tolu is a calling, beyond passion and my international certificate in counseling, then, you have to read this.

Remember whatever you can't control, but controls your life is an error.

I receive mails, text and even calls like this on a daily basis, that is why i have grown beyond negative criticism and envious comments or attitude, to the glory of God

May this testimony restore and refresh you in Jesus name.

I'm an ardent follower of your programme both on RSTV(as i resides in rivers state) and Facebook. I couldn't contain my joy when you announced your intent to talk about masturbation and how to combat it.

My story of masturbation was rather a pitiable one as i was doing it at 'least' 3times on daily basis. This dated back as far back as 2003.
The more i tried to stop it the even more i saw myself doing it.
Earnestly it was demoralising to say the least. I would do it whilst my girlfriend was right inside my room/ after having s**x. YES that
was how chronic my case was. My long lasting dream of stopping it came
alive once more when you announced it. The programme was carefully
followed with the sole intention of saving myself from the plight. i
digested most of the tips served and acted accordingly(still applying
them). Believe me i haven't done it since that very moment nor
harbouring the thought till now as i'm typing.
For a devoted masturbator i was to stay for couple of weeks without
doing it or have a mere thought of it says a lot already. Ma'am you're
incredible in what you're doing. God bless you abundantly, richly and
ceaselessly. And i do pray consistently NEVER to go back again. I
treat it as my past as it stands. Say no to masturbation, it's evil.
Once more i say thank you Ma'am.

 (Intimate Talk With Tolu needs partnership/sponsorship to reach out to a larger audience, inbox me to sponsor or partner: intimatetalkwithtolu@yahoo.com).

LET THE BOBBY BE!

Padded, designers, lacy, half, strapless.... ......... Bra has always been an essential part of every woman, but the problem is that there are lots of myths about this crucial lingerie.

For example, Most of us actually think wearing brazier makes the boobs firmer, some also think it helps to avoid sagging, you cant be farther from the truth. Experts found out that the less you wear bra, the more you are likely to avoid sagging boobs, this is because bra put pressures on breast tissues and tend to strain it thereby resulting to sagging over a long period of time.

In fact, research shows that sleeping with bra can cause a lot of damages to your beautiful natural oranges and cause severe sleeping discomfort. Apart from sagging, have you ever thought about the damage the padding iron can cause if the sharp edge accidentally touch your breast?

My 10 kobo, release your boobs! Do it as often as possible, wearing bra will not make it firmer, in fact, always do that as soon as you come back from work/outings especially if you are in your own apartment where no male folk can be tempted. Be proud of yourself jare, a man that will love you will always do for who you are, be the real you, let the bobby be!

THE MARRIAGE SCHOOL

THE SCHOOL CALLED MARRIAGE

Marriage is the only school where u get the

Certificate before you start. It's also a school where

you will never graduate.

It's a school without a break or a free period.

It's a school where no one is allowed to drop out.

It's a school you will have to attend every day of

your life.

It's a school where there is no sick leave or holidays.

It's a school founded by God:

1.On the foundation of love.

2.The walls are made out of trust.

3.The door made out of acceptance.

4.The windows made out of understanding

5.The furniture made out of blessings

6.The roof made out of faith.

Be reminded that you are just a student not the

principal.

God is the only Principal.

Even in times of storms, don't be unwise and run

outside.

Keep in mind that, this school is the safest place to

be.

Never go to sleep before completing your

assignments for the day.

Never forget the C-word...Communicate.

Communicate to your classmate and to the Principal

If you find out something in your classmate (spouse)

that you do not appreciate.

Remember your classmate is also just a student not a

graduate, God is not finished with him/her yet. So

take it as a challenge and work on it together.

Do not forget to study the Holy Book (the main

textbook of this school).

Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it

the same way. Sometimes you will feel like not

attending classes, yet you have to.

When tempted to quit find courage and continue.

Some tests and exams may be tough but remember

the Principal knows how much you can bear and yet

it's a school better than any other.

It's one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace and

happiness accompany each lesson of the day.

Different subjects are offered in this school, yet

love is the major subject.

After all the years of theorizing about it, now you

have a chance to practice it.

To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the

greatest privilege of them all.

Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse. More grace from God.