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BEAUTIFUL ADVICE TO MAKE IT WORK

Beautiful advice from a divorced man after 16 years of marriage.

My advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage, by Gerald Rogers.

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had

1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

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INTERVIEW IN TRIBUNE

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KISSING 101

As simple as it sounds, kissing can make or mar your marriage. Most of the big issues couples are struggling with in their marriages started with just a little act of ignorance. When a professional kisser or someone who is good in the act of kissing get married to someone who is an amateur or clueless in the act, you should expect a marriage full of nagging and turbulence, how manage, you said? Let me explain this…..

GO BACK HOME.....

She rubbed your pot belly, ran her fingers on your head and called you baby, even though she's in the same class with your daughter, sorry, your grand daughter, and what did you do? You smiled and say, thank you my darling.

When you make love to her, oh sorry, another slip of hand, I mean to write, when you have sex with her, she fakes the ohs and ahs and you are feeling cool, thinking you are doing a good job, you even said to yourself, "if its my wife, she wont enjoy it this way"keep deceiving yourself, all she wants is your money, you will be surprised to find out that you are clueless about how to satisfy a woman in bed.

You know what? those girls are using you, you are not their type, they only need your money. Stop punishing a good woman who has no alternative to sexual satisfaction except from you, stop comparing her with your orgasm faking money mongers, come back home before nemesis catch up with you, those girls are dangerous, babes are not smiling they normally say, they hate you but love your money.

Go back to the woman of your youth, when you receive genuine love from a woman, it results to longevity of your life.-Tolu

3 WAYS TO STOP FIGHTING ABOUT SEX

“ WAYS TO STOP FIGHTING ABOUT SEX”
For the women, You need to understand the importance of sex in your marriage and why your husband  is demanding for it more than you do,  he is just being a man. Incase you are wondering why he keeps  asking for sex more than you, bear it in mind that his body system is different from yours.
Now this goes to the singles, you need to know that ‘Intimate Talk With Tolu’ doesn't support premarital sex, this is because it is against the will of God, doing  lot of damages to our society and those involved in the act. This article will help you to solve about 95% of your marital issues by saying good bye to poor and boring sex life in your marriage. Let  me say this to the men, you need to learn how to make your wife look forward to having sex with you,  this is  where the  problem lies, most couples has problem in balancing the contradicting situation, where the woman is not looking forward to sex and the man wants it all the time, that is why you keep fighting about sex in your  marriage. Now I am going to tell you how to stop this contradiction, how the two of you can come to a neutral term so you can start enjoying sex in your marriage. There are some things you need to know about sex, it is a powerful tool in marriage, more than just a physical exercise and highly spiritual take it from me or not.

A lot of marriages are in crisis even when the couples  don’t want to admit it, and most of this crisis are sex related. I want you to know that  God is the originator sex, He wants you to enjoy it in your marriage, don’t think it is a sin when you are involve in sex as married couples, its worse  if you keep malice and you start cheating on your partner, of course cheating is not a solution to your marital crisis all you need to do is to understand the principle guiding marriages, good enough, that is why Aunty Tolu is here.
This is what you need to know about sex, each time a woman or a man reaches”fulfillment”   generally know as ‘orgasm’ oxytocin is released into the brain and the body in quantities that promotes bonding between the people this means that the more a couple have sexual fulfillment  the more they bond with each other,  they become more close and more attached to each other, in other words the reason why you have fight, nagging etc is because you don’t have sexual fulfillment in your marriage. Another thing you need to know is that testosterone, one of the hormones responsible for sex drive is 20-40 percent higher in men than women, though not always the case, but commonly it is  normal for men to desire sex more than women, that is how their body is wired, biologically it is so. So if your husband is asking for sex more than you do, it is because of the hormones
Men tend to determine intimacy as the form of union or physical activities, while women tend to see intimacy as sharing emotions bond, the warm, the closeness the vulnerabilities, and then, when a man is not getting enough of what he tends intimacy to be he begins to think the woman is straying, to a man the only way you can tell him you love him is to give him sex. these relative individual differences you between the men and the women need to be understood.