“ WAYS TO STOP FIGHTING ABOUT SEX”
For the women, You need to understand the importance of sex in your marriage and why your husband is demanding for it more than you do, he is just being a man. Incase you are wondering why he keeps asking for sex more than you, bear it in mind that his body system is different from yours.
Now this goes to the singles, you need to know that ‘Intimate Talk With Tolu’ doesn't support premarital sex, this is because it is against the will of God, doing lot of damages to our society and those involved in the act. This article will help you to solve about 95% of your marital issues by saying good bye to poor and boring sex life in your marriage. Let me say this to the men, you need to learn how to make your wife look forward to having sex with you, this is where the problem lies, most couples has problem in balancing the contradicting situation, where the woman is not looking forward to sex and the man wants it all the time, that is why you keep fighting about sex in your marriage. Now I am going to tell you how to stop this contradiction, how the two of you can come to a neutral term so you can start enjoying sex in your marriage. There are some things you need to know about sex, it is a powerful tool in marriage, more than just a physical exercise and highly spiritual take it from me or not.
This is what you need to know about sex, each time a woman or a man reaches”fulfillment” generally know as ‘orgasm’ oxytocin is released into the brain and the body in quantities that promotes bonding between the people this means that the more a couple have sexual fulfillment the more they bond with each other, they become more close and more attached to each other, in other words the reason why you have fight, nagging etc is because you don’t have sexual fulfillment in your marriage. Another thing you need to know is that testosterone, one of the hormones responsible for sex drive is 20-40 percent higher in men than women, though not always the case, but commonly it is normal for men to desire sex more than women, that is how their body is wired, biologically it is so. So if your husband is asking for sex more than you do, it is because of the hormones
Men tend to determine intimacy as the form of union or physical activities, while women tend to see intimacy as sharing emotions bond, the warm, the closeness the vulnerabilities, and then, when a man is not getting enough of what he tends intimacy to be he begins to think the woman is straying, to a man the only way you can tell him you love him is to give him sex. these relative individual differences you between the men and the women need to be understood.
Follow these few steps, it will help you to stop fighting about sex in your marriage:
COMMUNICATION: Its important to know that fighting and nagging is completely different from communication, most times when you don’t know how to table your matter as a woman when it comes to sexual related issue, the long run effect on your husband might be erectile disfunction. open discussion and honesty is the solution to avoid fight, no matter how difficult the issue is you have to talk about it because being silent will not solve the problem. Some times you need to ask your spouse how or where he or she wants you to touch and how things should be done, this can go a long way in making your marriage work.
COMPROMISE: Men can compromise by helping their wives with house chores, when you do that the woman will feel loved or if you can not assist her in doing the chores try as much as you can to show concern, a little gesture from your part will help your woman to feel loved, and all these are preambles to a great sex. The same goes to the women you have to compromise your standard to suit the man, as both of you constantly compromise to make each other happy, you will get to a level where you will start understanding each other, the body language, what turns him on, what turns her on etc. when you make the satisfaction of your partner a priority, then you don’t have to fight about sex, you can always compromise to please your partner.Compromise doesn't mean going against the will of God or getting involved in acts you are not comfortable with, it simply means, getting your wife/husband sexually satisfied becomes your topmost priority.
FIX WHAT IS NOT RIGHT: Always know that the problems you left unsolved will generates other problems, in fact, bigger ones. Whatever you felt is the cause of the problem you are having in your sex life, talk about it, compromise for each others happiness, and when you find the root of the problem, make up your mind to do whatever it takes to fix it. Incase you have any problem in your marriage and relationship and you feel you need somebody to talk to you can always contact me through my email address intimatetalkwithtolu@yahoo.com or www.facebook.com/intimatetalkwithtolu
This is a great article. I am so glad someone is bringing light on these myths. I wholeheartedly believe that as Christians we can have better intimacy and fun in our marriages than anyone else. Thanks for this post! sexual intimacy problems in marriage
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