SOLVING THE PUZZLE OF ORGASM

SOLVING THE PUZZLE OF ORGASM I know there are lots of questions going on in many peoples' head about the term orgasm especially in this part of the world, some has never heard of it, some heard and doesn't really understand what it means and so many has never experienced it. In fact some argued that women are not meant to enjoy sex, i could remember someone posted during a debate on my Facebook page that our grandmothers never experienced orgasm and they only made love to make their husband happy, he also believed that the desire to be sexually satisfied is the reason why women are misbehaving these days, he cannot be farther from the truth, but that is Africa mentality for you.                                                                                            Even though sexual relationship with one’s spouse should not be orgasm based, but one can only achieve true level of physical and emotional sexual satisfaction through the experience called orgasm. what is orgasmasm?  The word orgasm comes from the Greek word orga, meaning to explode with pleasure. It’s the climax of sexual pleasure, arriving suddenly after stimulation, and lasting just a few seconds.  Research shows that orgasm is the most intense form of pleasure that human   beings can experience, wow!. The sensual rush is followed by a period of relaxation, satisfaction and calm. sounds interesting right? follow me, lets solve the puzzle..... What happened when one achieved orgasm?                                                 MEN:  When men 'come' or Orgasm, they ejaculate and their pelvic muscles   contracts. WOMEN: When women orgasm the clitoris retracts, the vagina, pelvic floor muscles and uterus also contract in short bursts.  A few women also secrete a whitish liquid during orgasm. This is known as 'squirting,' or female ejaculation. There is possibility of feeling like you want to urinate during orgasm, never mistaken peeing with squirting. COUPLES:   both partners' heart rate will increase and blood vessels will dilate. The physical pleasure leads to the release of endorphins that create feelings of relaxation and contentment.  Research shows that the hormone called oxytocin is released in large quantity during orgasm, this hormone is believed to promote bonding and hence monogamy in marriage. HOW DOES ONE REACH ORGASM?                                                                       Foreplay:  This is the sexual activity that precedes lovemaking; it includes gazing, touching, kissing, necking, pecking, undressing each other, licking etc. The extent and level one can go during foreplay depends on individual moral and religious belief, but what matters here is mutual respect and understanding with the desire to satisfy and make each other happy. Note that you should not be compelled to do what you are not comfortable with, and in as much as its not against the will of God, satisfying your partner is paramount. Penetration:  is principally the insertion and thrusting of a male's penis, usually when erect, into a female's vagina for the purposes of sexual pleasure or reproduction. Research shows that only 30% of women will achieve orgasm through penetration and this most time depend on sex positions, so there’s need to understand what position suits you best and  if   you have being trying  to achieve orgasm through penetration without result , you are not alone. How does one achieves orgasm: It is a common knowledge that women are a lot less familiar with orgasm; this is due to various reasons like social pressure from times gone by, strict upbringings, religious background, taboo attitudes and, for some women, lack of knowledge of their own bodies.  Achieving orgasm has been a very big issue for a lot of couples, especially in this part of the world, how do you understand what you are clueless about its existence, and even if you know it exists, how do you get there when you don’t know what you want, and if you don’t know what you want, how will spouse help you to get there. The best way to reach this belt boom of orgasm is to completely know and understand your body. Women have many pleasure sensors which, when correctly stimulated, will send you straight to seventh heaven - but you need to know where to find them!

Get to know your sensitive hot spots:
The clitoris is a little 'button' situated between the folds of the labia at the front of your genitals. It’s easy to access and is very sensitive to touch.
The G spot is situated close to the bladder, behind the pubic bone and the urethra, about 4cm away from the entrance to your vagina.[ There has been a lot of argument about the true existence of the g-spot.]
Some said it’s their breast, the back of the neck, the belly button, or even through kissing, the ultimate is understanding your hot spots.
Discovering and Becoming familiar with your body will teach you what you like and you can direct your partner so he can give you maximum thrills.
Facts
Women can achieve multiple orgasm while men experience a refractory period after orgasm (a recovery phase during which no amount of stimulation can bring about an erection).
If you make your love making experience orgasm based, you will be disappointed most time because of unfulfilled expectations. Being open and the desire to be intimate with your partner should be ultimate.

There is difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms, the latter being a lot more difficult to reach but it’s sad to know that some sexologists claim vaginal orgasms are a lot deeper and more intense than clitoral orgasms.
Some women are frigid and might need to see a counselor to understand how to achieve orgasm.

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